Ask Mr. Marriage
July 24, 2007 at 2:03 pm | In MRC-WC, Marriage | 4 CommentsQ: Why do women get so angry when men try to help some solve the problems they complain about?
A: The root of this problem is miscommunication: When a women tells you about her problems she wants you to listen and be supportive NOT to problem solve. This can be perceived as being insensitive and domineering. So instead of cutting her off and telling her how to solve things, stop, listen, give her a hug and ask her “ What can I do to make you feel better?”
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It would do us all good to understand our differences without thinking of them as bad or good. Men and women do process information differently. Generally, men are focused on quickly identifying a concrete solution. Women however, are more likely to work the problem through as they verbally explain the details of the issue to their spouse or friends. Neither of these techniques is inherently right or wrong; rather each would find more satisfaction in their conversations if they were a bit more accomodating of one anothers problem solving styles. Men: just let her explain without forcing the “obvious” solution on her; women: accept his suggestion graciously. Both need to be assured that their partner is listening, and simply wants the best for them.
Comment by juliecme — August 2, 2007 #
I agree – different is neither good nor bad BUT we have to realize we are different in some ways and work through that
Comment by stevenmrc — August 2, 2007 #
very interesting.
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Comment by music — January 7, 2008 #
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Thanks for the nice read, keep up the interesting posts..
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